Ever since overcoming divorce, I had a strong wish to capture stories of how others felt when they faced hardships or their own fork in the road. Choosing to divorce changed the trajectory of my life and squarely led me to writing on Medium today. Sometimes I wonder where I would be now if I had not taken that route. But one thing is for sure: I would be very unhappy. Divorce was one of my turning points; for others, it could be anything else.
Over the years, I’ve thought about several ways of capturing others’ experiences. I started creating…
About six months ago, a friend asked me if I’d like to go into business with him. To sum it up, it was essentially to buy some land (him) so it can be maintained and rented out to campers (me) on Hipcamp, which is the AirBnB version for campgrounds.
For reasons I couldn’t state back then, it was a lucrative idea, given the pandemic and camping has been on the rise, and he’s great in business, I decided it wasn’t for me. …
In the beginning of 2015, after half a year of him stalling on getting me some documents, my divorce was finalized. It was quite anticlimactic; an email from my lawyer coming through, nonchalantly confirming the closure, and just like that, a chapter of my life came to an end, while another, equally as painful, if not more, opened up.
For the next five years, I encountered a series of challenges that tested my belief in people and my faith that if I just kept going, a better life laid ahead.
I was working at a consulting firm that although I…
Let’s say you went to a restaurant, and there were plenty of choices on the menu. Flustered by the options, you just choose something that sounds good, or based off the server’s recommendation, and call it a day. When the meal arrives, you decide that you don’t really prefer it. And that’s fine. Because it was only one meal, and you know next time to choose something else.
But what happens when you have decisions that aren’t as simple as an inconsequential meal? …
Do we ever stop to think whether revelation came first, and then growth followed, or during growth is when we have our reveal?
Almost like the chicken or egg thing, right?
Then there’s work hard and get good at something and passion will follow. But there’s also finding our passion and then working hard at it.
So many takes and perspectives, especially the passion topic. But the fact is, it doesn’t matter. It only matters what works for us.
For me, it always seems like the revelation came first, and from there my actions dictated my growth.
Recently, I was…
The cycle of hate cannot be broken.
It just perpetuates until it finds the next source as fuel.
Every group gets a turn.
Black, Asian, Muslim, Christian.
LGBTQIA, immigrant, homeless, diseased.
Definitely not an exhaustive list.
Everyone falls into a group. Some people are part of many groups.
Some conflicts take a lifetime to sort out, while some would never be abolished.
I know it’s not that simple, but my wish is for us to remember that we all want the same things.
To have our basic…
This piece is by my friend, Tom, in response to my prompt of what he considered one of his most impactful turning points. He’s a good friend, someone who I credit for helping change my trajectory in life as well. His story below reminds me that sometimes our way forward shows up in the most mundane setting, and it is up to us to take action and explore whether it is right for us.
Throughout your existence, you will encounter various turning points. Regardless of the outcome, I consider them a PhD in life. As I ponder some of my…
There comes a point in everyone’s lives that they wonder if they are enough. Am I pretty enough? Am I tough enough? Does my partner really love me, or does s/he just tolerate me?
Those feelings can be crippling. I dare to say that if we took a deep dive into the darkest chambers of our minds, we’d find a lot of garbage floating around.
It can take years of therapy, self-help, and external validation in order for us to move forward. This also depends on if there are any additional levels of trauma tacked onto your psyche.
Welcome to the very first edition of THE TURNING POINT’s monthly newsletter! First and foremost, thank you for your readership and submissions. This publication is very much for you as it is for me; I really intend for it to be a place where we can find support, share in our experiences, and know we are not alone. Somewhere, someone, has likely been through the same. Likewise, somewhere, someone, has been impacted by your story. So, thank you for sharing.
From finding our worth, to finding who we are or are meant to do, these stories are great…
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