In our lives, we all have searched for one thing or another. Sometimes, we searched for multiple things at once. We might have even felt what we were searching for were present for others but ever elusive for us. What are we doing wrong? How come others who weren’t even looking for that thing will get it, while we don’t?
I read something recently about a woman who felt jealousy and resentment seeing her ex from many years ago have the very things that she longed for. She was very well put together, focused, and generally tried to live a…
By 30, Kelly had already been climbing the corporate ladder for almost a decade. She reached a level of success that would make her 11-year-old self proud, the age she moved from Macau to the United States.
Yet, there was this nagging feeling that she was not fulfilled. Like there was more to life than this. What was missing? Or, rather, what was there that she didn’t want?
“You know the saying “climbing the corporate ladder” but sometimes we don’t realize that the ladder is leaning against the wrong wall.”
Day in, day out, Kelly would dutifully report to work…
Just recently, I read a piece by Yael Wolfe that really struck a chord in me.
In Even Feminists Are Stuck in the Patriarchal Matrix, she begins by telling the audience she chose to shave her legs right before sex. Chose as in she physically picked up the razor and shaved herself, not chose because she really wanted shaved legs. She reveals she really shaved because she’s been made to feel ashamed when she didn’t.
She goes on to explain that she actually prefers being natural, but because of potential obnoxious public (read: guys) opinion and general cultural conditioning, she…
Lately, on Medium and other outlets, I’ve read a lot of both personal and research pieces about employees quitting their jobs. This is notable because it comes at a time when the country is slowly returning to normal in terms of offices opening back up. You’d think collectively, we’d be overjoyed for the chance to get out of the house and replenish our bank accounts. Yet, we are contending with a shortage of workers for certain markets like retail, food, and hospitality, and the very real threat that people would rather quit than go back to the office.
About six months ago, a friend asked me if I’d like to go into business with him. To sum it up, it was essentially to buy some land (him) so it can be maintained and rented out to campers (me) on Hipcamp, which is the AirBnB version for campgrounds.
For reasons I couldn’t state back then, it was a lucrative idea, given the pandemic and camping has been on the rise, and he’s great in business, I decided it wasn’t for me. …
In the beginning of 2015, after half a year of him stalling on getting me some documents, my divorce was finalized. It was quite anticlimactic; an email from my lawyer coming through, nonchalantly confirming the closure, and just like that, a chapter of my life came to an end, while another, equally as painful, if not more, opened up.
For the next five years, I encountered a series of challenges that tested my belief in people and my faith that if I just kept going, a better life laid ahead.
I was working at a consulting firm that although I…
Let’s say you went to a restaurant, and there were plenty of choices on the menu. Flustered by the options, you just choose something that sounds good, or based off the server’s recommendation, and call it a day. When the meal arrives, you decide that you don’t really prefer it. And that’s fine. Because it was only one meal, and you know next time to choose something else.
But what happens when you have decisions that aren’t as simple as an inconsequential meal? …
Do we ever stop to think whether revelation came first, and then growth followed, or during growth is when we have our reveal?
Almost like the chicken or egg thing, right?
Then there’s work hard and get good at something and passion will follow. But there’s also finding our passion and then working hard at it.
So many takes and perspectives, especially the passion topic. But the fact is, it doesn’t matter. It only matters what works for us.
For me, it always seems like the revelation came first, and from there my actions dictated my growth.
Recently, I was…
The cycle of hate cannot be broken.
It just perpetuates until it finds the next source as fuel.
Every group gets a turn.
Black, Asian, Muslim, Christian.
LGBTQIA, immigrant, homeless, diseased.
Definitely not an exhaustive list.
Everyone falls into a group. Some people are part of many groups.
Some conflicts take a lifetime to sort out, while some would never be abolished.
I know it’s not that simple, but my wish is for us to remember that we all want the same things.
To have our basic…
This piece is by my friend, Tom, in response to my prompt of what he considered one of his most impactful turning points. He’s a good friend, someone who I credit for helping change my trajectory in life as well. His story below reminds me that sometimes our way forward shows up in the most mundane setting, and it is up to us to take action and explore whether it is right for us.
Throughout your existence, you will encounter various turning points. Regardless of the outcome, I consider them a PhD in life. As I ponder some of my…
Individual in her journey of growth and spirituality // Looking to capture others’ stories about life in THE TURNING POINT